Should You Break Up?
For most people, there comes a point in a long and serious relationship where they may consider leaving their mate. When it comes to breaking or making a relationship, there really aren’t any right or wrong choices. So whatever you pick, accept now that it is an unavoidable part of life.
If you are considering putting an end to your relationship, think about the reason why. For instance, if they cheated on you, broke a promise, or if you feel you are in love with someone else, discuss it. You may want to discuss it with a very close and reasonable friend first, but if your mate is typically calm and rational, then try to even discuss it with them. If you are concerned about the legitimacy of the issue, then spend some time thinking about it by yourself and discover how it makes you feel.
If the reason is one that you can’t readily explain, then that is definitely a reason you will want to ponder a bit. Sometimes, when you aren’t really sure why you want to leave the one you’re with, it’s a lot easier to take a day to yourself and pretend to be single. Just see how it makes you feel to think of not being with them anymore. Pretend that they aren’t involved with you and that you are free and single. You should be able to learn from this method whether you would be happier to stay with them or not.
Pay close attention to the feelings you get when you are around them and with them. You should know that if you get uncomfortable from them holding or touching you, then it may be time to call it quits. The same thing could be said if you feel a great amount of happiness from the thought of being single.
It’s hard to tell sometimes if you’re truly in love with someone, or if the two of you are just a really good pair of friends. The love for friends is just as unconditional and easily mistakable for the love you may feel for a soul mate. It’s an honest mistake for many young lovers to make, which is why a lot of young people who think they fall in love these days can still remain friends. It’s because that is what they were all along.
This doesn’t happen all the time, however, as a good deal of relationships tend to end one-sided. One person feels a lot of love and attachment for the other, but the other feels friendship. Break-ups can be resolved maturely, but most of the time they end poorly. Lots of things can be spurred on by a break-up. You can lose a few cool friends and the love and attention of any friends that are on your ex’s side, but then, you can also open yourself up to a world of possibilities. Keep in mind that there is always someone out there that can make you happy.